I’m often asked about wedding invitation etiquette. By now I’m sure you’ve discovered that looking online at a popular wedding website is little to no help, or it doesn’t answer your question about your specific circumstances. That’s when you need the expertise of an experienced stationer, not someone who just decided to do this to earn extra money.
What’s the best way to determine how your invitation should be worded? Should it say “Bride’s name and Groom’s name cordially invite you”? Or should it say “Together with their parents, Bride’s name and Groom’s name invite you”? How does a couple make the choice?
There are TONS of variations of this wording, but it boils down to one key item, MONEY! When wording your invitation, think of who is paying the majority of the bills for the event. Traditionally, it has been the parents of the bride. The invitation would then read: “Mr. and Mrs. Jake Johnson invite you to the wedding of their daughter Anne Johnson”. But these are modern times and while the “old ways” are still usable, they aren’t always applicable in today’s society. If you and your fiancé are paying most of the bills, your invitation can say “Gabrielle Denise Jones and Keven Michael Smith request the honor”. We, at Sharpe Stationery, use the “Together with their families” line when both parents and the engaged couple share the expenses.
This is the simplistic answer to the question. When in doubt, contact us for clarification. We have the experience and knowledge to explain everything about wedding invitation etiquette. We can design your invitation suite (hint, hint!) and ensure it sends the correct message to all of your guests.
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